Like many people, I’ve been thinking a lot right now about what I’ve accomplished this year. And I’m sure I’m like a lot of people in that I’ve found myself focusing on all that I DIDN’T accomplish this year.
It’s like if things weren’t absolutely perfect they just seem to weigh on me. And of course, that get’s in the way of me celebrating the holidays and planning for next year.
In the past, I’ve just pushed it all down and tried to slogged through. Of course that never really worked as well as I hoped.
But this week I started thinking about these ups and downs and wondering what I could learn about them from my videos. Over the years I’ve learned that there is much wisdom in the words of everyday people so I’ve started just thinking about how I could apply what is said in the birthday, retirement and wedding videos, to my own life.
This is what I learned…
If there is one thing I should be perfect in, it’s showing up in people’s lives on a regular basis. That’s what I should be perfect in.
I’m doing 50th-anniversary video and what people talked about time and time again was how this couple was always there. Always helping out, always doing activities and always being involved. They didn’t talk about the “big” things in life. They talked about the everyday things and how important they are. I’m sure that couple wasn’t perfect but they were there day in and day out and that made a huge difference.
I also delivered a retirement video for a VP of HR from an international company. What was said over and over was “I owe my career to you” and “I wouldn’t be where I am today without you.” We included photos from her tenure and it was clear that she was present year after year with teams from around the world.
Like the couple, she showed up day after day and made a point of helping people.
This week I learned that there is perfection in being there for people. Yes, strive to improve and reach goals, but don’t let imperfections get in the way of being with people. I’m making plans to spend time with friends and family and do the work so I can really be there with them distraction free.
I figure that is perfect for the holidays.
What about you? What would it be like if you increase your “there-ness” and just worried about being with the people you love? How would that make difference for you and them?
With much love and deep appreciation. Happy holidays and I wish you the very best.